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Wednesday, October 1, 2014

When Love Starts to Hurt: Domestic Violence

There are countless ways to abuse a person. Emotionally/mentally, physically, sexually...We all hear the stories daily. At this point I think it's become somewhat normal. Something people see and don't think much about because there's so much of it, we're desensitized, until it hits close to home or the story is disturbing enough. I've seen and heard of domestic violence during different times of my life and to me it's all the same, just different people. It always hits close to home.

Imagine you fall in love, it's the most beautiful thing, you're sharing the most intimate parts of yourself with someone special, you're vulnerable, you're excited, and suddenly you're scared. You're hoping that it's just this once, but then it happens again... and again. He's sorry I'm sure he is, but promises get broken, and your dreams and spirit get broken and you're stuck in a never-ending cycle. You're trapped, emotionally and physically. Mentally you're in a tired fog, unmotivated and unsure what to do. There's children involved, there are bills, legal entanglements, there's a financial burden and entrapment, there's the lack of support, and the minuscule day to day tasks feel insurmountable. You're essentially all alone, and you've got little ones to take care of. Fear alone is enough to keep you where you are. Acceptance will soon crawl in. This is the realities women are living. At some point the will to survive will be questioned.

A friend from High School has been going through domestic violence for the last 12 years in silence. She has decided to take a stand and fight back breaking that silence and she's doing so courageously. She's a SAHM working on her own business designing and crafting cosmetic bags, zip bags, monogram gift bags, clutches, and various cases/covers for electronic devices. I know her personally and I vouch for her work. There's a problem though. Walking away isn't so simple or without hardships. She's got three beautiful little girls depending on her.

That's why today I'm asking you all, SAHMs, friends, G+ communities, please donate to her cause and share this if you care. Helping spread the word will get her closer to her goals. Domestic violence can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, income, or other factors.

Please donate whatever you can. Every $1.00 counts. If I am able to get at least $1.00 from every 100 readers, that $100 would at least help her with her rent, utilities, or her business expenses. If you are able to donate more, she will send you one of her special tokens of appreciation bags.

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If you'd like to see some of her bags and would rather show support by making a purchase:

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Domestic Abuse Facts:

The Victims

  • 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime.
  • Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults.
  • Women are more likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men
  • Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
  • Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by her current or former partner

The Families

  • Every year, more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes.
  • Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
  • A 2005 Michigan study found that children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
  • A 2003 study found that children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.

The Circumstances

  • Domestic violence is most likely to occur between 6 pm and 6 am.
  • More than 60% of domestic violence incidents happen at home.

The Consequences

  • According to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development, domestic violence is the third leading cause of homelessness among families.
  • In New York City, 25% of homeless heads of household became homeless due to domestic violence.
  • Survivors of domestic violence face high rates of depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, flashbacks, and other emotional distress.
  • Domestic violence contributes to poor health for many survivors.  For example, chronic conditions like heart disease or gastrointestinal disorders can become more serious due to domestic violence. 
  • Among women brought to emergency rooms due to domestic violence, most were socially isolated and had fewer social and financial resources than other women not injured because of domestic violence.
  • Without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse as teens and adults.
  • Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.
  • Domestic violence costs more than $37 billion a year in law enforcement involvement, legal work, medical and mental health treatment, and lost productivity at companies.

#1 FACT:

Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.
Help change the facts. Speak up, speak out, and make a difference for victims of domestic violence.

How to Make a Difference

Give victims of domestic violence the support they deserve.

Resources:
National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233   

http://www.safehorizon.org/page/domestic-violence-statistics--facts-52.html

http://www.refuge.org.uk/ 

http://www.clicktoempower.org/financial-tools

http://www.clarkprosecutor.org/html/domviol/facts.htm

http://www.ncadv.org/protectyourself/GettingHelp.php 

http://www.womenlawyers.com/domestic.htm

Understanding the Signs: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

NYC Victim Resources: http://manhattanda.org/resources-victims-domestic-violence

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