Wednesday, May 29, 2013

SAHM Hacks: Tips that Make the Job Easier!

This post is for my friend Christina who's juggling a 6 yr old, a newborn and grad school. Big round of applause for her, she's amazing! Life after having the babies isn't what we thought it would be like. I mean it's downright hectic between balancing your house chores, the kids, time with your man, and then your own personal development. I know my mom's generation would laugh saying "What personal development? Your priority is working and taking care of your home".  Fuck that. We're people too, we need to do things for ourselves and stay relevent. Our place is not just mom/provider for God sakes!

So I thought I'd post a few tips about what I do to lessen the load and make being a SAHM almost a  piece of cake!

  • I cheat on recipes...if I don't have it I don't use it..oh well. I substitute 1 ingredient for something else. Adding all kinds of stuff can make it seem like this is something new and innovative. Like I put really good thoughts into the meal preparation. Change is good right? lol
  • My husband thinks I spend more time in the kitchen than I really do: I get in there an hour before he get's home and put the entire full sink into the dishwasher and get dinner started. Ain't nobody got time to cook or wash dishes all day...
  • I keep the kids on a serious schedule they need to be in bed by 7:30pm-8:30pm, I don't care if you can't sleep at 7:30pm you're getting in bed and staying in there until you fall asleep, tonight mom needs to see her show, shave, and get laid. 
  • I have a "Fend for Yourself" night every so often, but absolutely not weekly {it's tempting to make it a weekly habit, lol}, where I'll have food for the kids, and we eat whatever we feel like/can find for dinner. Either leftovers, cereal, find something in the pantry. I reserve these days for days I can't be bothered to live up to the incredibly high standards of being wife/mom. 
  • Use Mccormick gourmet packets! It's quick,easy, and dynamic; use ingredients with packets interchangeably. After you follow instructions the 1st time you'll know what flavors it has. (Just because it says pork doesn't mean you HAVE to use to it with pork.) 

  • The luxury of crock pots, rice cookers, and BBQ grills. I stock up on pasta, sauce, rice, beans, onion/garlic, tomatoes, bell peppers, fish and meat at all times so I can throw something together in my crockpot. If you don't use some of these fresh ingredients before it goes bad, throw it in the freezer! There's always a recipe I can pull up on www.allrecipes.com. I registered and keep recipes handy in the recipe box feature.
    Grilled Pork chops smothered in m Mushrooms and Onions w/ Cauliflower Mashed Potatoes & Salad (30 mins or less)
  • PUBLIX Rotissierre chicken! Omg...I love the lemon pepper/mojito flavored one. When I really don't wanna put forth the effort but want to have a good dinner, I ask my husband to pick up one of these on his way home with some romaine lettuce. It goes great with a salad, rice and beans, or steamed veggies.
  • Laundry: I abandon folding it if I am too busy. It's clean and sits in baskets in the laundry room. There are far more important things to do in life than folding laundry like my goddamn exercise. 
  • Get the kids involved! Every morning my oldest who's going to be 4 next week helps unpack the dishwasher, we're like an assembly line. The little one who's 17 months old even tries helping with the spoons and forks. I unpack the dishwasher in 5 mins, and they learn the value of helping with chores, which is tons of praise and the improved possibility of a sweet treat later on. They help clean up their mess too. Put away toys at the end of the day before dad gets home. Plates don't sit on the table at the end of a meal, they belong at the sink, when they take off dirty clothes for bath time you better believe they know that it goes in the hamper...This isn't slavery, it's basic life skills they need to learn. 
When all else fails...FB, shopping, and wine will do the trick to help you unwind!

Benefits of Bananas!

I went off the deep end for a while and I got lost on my healthy posts that I like to make. I go bananas, my kids go bananas, we all go bananas if we don't have our bananas! I've been on top of my exercise again at least 3x a week and eating healthy. I always ate my fruits and veggies. I have a banana every day even, it's the best fruit to incorporate in your diet next to apples, and I thought well why the hell didn't I make a post on the benefits of bananas already!

No wonder why my monkeys are always smiling after they get their bananas:

Even the peel is useful! I gotta try this one!

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

"Man Plans and God Laughs"

My oldest Isabella will be 4 years old next week. I've been working on her party plans for weeks. We're excited that she'll be starting school soon, but so many things are changing. I've never been fond of change even though the prospect of new chapters and adventures excite me. I realized that I don't fear change I fear the transition. Transitions can be hard and scary, it takes time to adapt to the unexpected and unplanned circumstances that begin and end the process of change. Things are shaken up and then stabilize. I knew that this was going to be completely uprooting year for us, but there's no way to prepare for it. If you're like me, you're emotionally driven. But hey...isn't that what makes us human? Emotions that fuel motivation and action?

If praise taps into motivation, then we all must be emotionally driven, no?

I was in the shower this afternoon pouting about a lot of things. A new job always means the prospect for better financial standing/security but it's always at a cost. Sleep lost, precious time lost, privileges lost, and most of all the loss of freedom... I'm a spoiled brat I know, the better it becomes the more I bitch and complain. That's when I came to the conclusion that I can't go on "hanging my mouth" like my husband says, everyday. For some reason I have just been forced into rejection mode every time I don't get what I want. It's a character flaw believe me I know. It goes in stages, the first is where I automatically reject that the situation is happening, complain about it, then go into withdrawal; a complete depressive state which I just say fuck everything, because I see no solution thus the world must be over. That withdrawal stage is like a black plague hanging over my head and it takes the longest to get past. Eventually I get to point of making peace with everything and then I can be a positive productive part of society again. You'd think I'd stop being a drama queen with how grateful I say I am. Despite how grateful you are you you can't erase your bad habits. I fight the old too much...

While I am sane I am also insane...Where I was once positive I am also negative. When I seek out a balance a monkey wrench gets thrown on the scale. The fact is I'm far from normal. The last time I mentioned a few things to a friend she said if I was her wife she would beat me, lol. Most of the time I'm this girl standing by the window. Not knowing whether to enjoy the beautiful breeze or to jump outta the window. Even if you know you're not like everybody else who are so chill and relaxed, nonchalant about even the big stuff, you can't help but wish you were "normal".  There has to be a reason for all this. I'm waiting for my moment to break all the boundaries I mentally built myself. They say the first step is acceptance. I think I made that first step in the shower today. I can choose to fear and reject transitions. A control freak like myself can only handle so many things out of her absolute control as minor as they may be. Or I can be amazing and live a magical life.

Who doesn't want to be amazing and live a magical life?

"Man plans and God laughs"- I know this yet I plan everything anyway. I get upset when what's meant to be will be anyway.  Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I didn't realize that's what I was doing...

Monday, May 13, 2013

The Ultimate Overachiever

The summer is coming up, and I'm no closer to my goal than I was 6 weeks ago. Moving took a while to get settled. I'm officially settled in though, every room is completely unpacked. . There's so much I want to do, so many ideas, and things I still need to buy. I spent the last three weekends going shopping, buying little things here and there. The house is slowly coming together. I was aiming for a middle to far eastern theme. I can't wait to start a DIY project like painting. If you ever saw that movie "Limitless" I want to be Bradley Cooper, I want that drug so bad, where I could do anything and accomplish a million things in one day and absorb any material while flipping pages. I could use that shit right now. I bite off more than I can chew. I'm going through some personal issues right now that I don't wish to discuss because it makes me sad. I will discuss it in the future it's not a secret or anything I just know that a lot of people love to hear that you're going through something rather than genuinely say you know what I'm sorry I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. The world is full of bitches that find happiness in your sorrows. I went for my annual physical last month and my doctor was like you need to get to bed at 10:30 pm the latest. She was really stern. I gawked at her as if she said something so incomprehensible...I could eat healthy all I want, and preach to you what are the right things for good health and longevity but I'm screwing myself up by running myself down. I'm mentally exhausted. I haven't been following Dr's orders that's the bottom line.. I'm hoping things will be better without making changes and my stress levels be alleviated. I want it fucking all....

I thought I was super mom, super woman but my body is betraying me. I love staying up all night reading, and writing. I feel turned on by the creative juices that flow through me on a daily basis. To sit and actually put my thoughts into actions is where the problem lies. Always some distraction, someone needing me, something in my way. The kids were fucking sick last week with high temperatures that drove me insane. I can never be calm when my girls are sick. Both of em especially.  What will I do when they start school? I will be the school's nightmare of course, probably cursing every parent who brings their snot nosed children to school to infect the others. I need a vacation to myself. I need a nanny, I need the resources to get everything taken cared of for me so I can work on my business. I started reading two books, and have been back to exercising however not as many times a week as I was hoping to. That put together with trying to teach my almost 4 yr old how to write and playing with the baby, cooking, cleaning, laundry, time with my husband isn't enough. I need more time. I spent some time reading scriptures to pull me back to self-realization. I need to stay grounded.

My husband starts a new job in two weeks...A great job.
The truth: I can't help but feel a little jealous...a teeny tiny bit; that he gets 8 hours a day to devote to what he loves doing and is passionate about completely uninterrupted. Meanwhile I hold the fort down at home and put my drives on the back burner. I'm not a lazy person, I don't waste time hanging out with people, watching tv all day, or doing useless things, then complain that I'm not where I want to be. If you want something you have to hustle,  you have to stop wasting precious time with useless people and keep grinding. Take a break yes of course by all means. You have to stay sane too. My breaks are usually on FB bullshitting and amusing myself with fuckin' hilarious memes, and chatting with my really good friends. I don't got time on the weekend to bullshit around either, I run my errands, and spend quality time with my family. Don't waste pointless time going here and there just because either. My mom would say "why don't you take the kids to Downtown Disney, or Citywalk? There's so much to do in FL". I can't be bothered that's why, it's such a production to get outta the house with them, they get out just enough to be sociable. They're gonna grow up and be unappreciative of the times you killed yourself with frustration anyway, what's the point? We do things with them at home and show them love what more do they really need? For my oldest 5th birthday next year we were thinking of doing Disney. How's it special if they're always getting spoiled rotten every weekend? That's why we're in the "Me" generation where everybody feels like their fuckin' owed/entitled to something. [Let me save that rant for another day...] I need a balance, I need to come up with a plan. All the plans I've come up with before failed miserably...I was back to my late nights and pissed off mornings in no time.

I'm praying for a miracle right now, I'm relaxing, I'm being positive, I will overcome this issue. I will overcome it like everything else I've struggled with before. I can and I will come out on top. God is teaching me a lesson right now, I haven't quite figured out the message but I pray that it's all for the best. Took a lot for granted I bet but I'm always going through bouts of worry, questioning life, what will come next, questioning myself, trying to do it all. I have to start using my power wisely maybe it's time to watch "The Secret" again... How do you use the power of your mind to overcome adversity?