Tuesday, September 3, 2013

3 Books that Changed My Mind

In the last two months I read three novels that changed my mind on some things. Things I thought I'd never change my mind on. I've never been the type of person you can say something to and I'll buy it off the bat. However, I am open minded enough to be quiet, listen, and think critically about what it is that's news to my ears. It's best to question what you think you know, because sometimes you go your whole life truly believing many untruths.

Government and Politics: I used to be proud to be born American. I am the first American born grandchild in my entire family. Growing up they used to ask me what I am to see if I'd mention any west indian roots, but my response was always "American!". What it means to be American back when you were naive, and believed we were about making dreams come true and the land of good honest work and opportunities is no longer today's reality. It's all about the paper, and who has more of it. Sure, the corruption has always been there yes that's true. I've just had enough of their shenanigans at this point. The radiation in Fukushima, Japan, the GMOs, Syria, it's all too much. I don't know how much more bad news about things that affect my kids future I will continue to learn. All because of what? Profits? I'm not gonna get further into politics, that's just a waste of time, but if I had the means to pick my family up and go live somewhere else I would. These books really do open up your eyes to why we're the most hated country in the world.

How pretty is this?
Islam: Sadly, due to western society Islam is viewed so negatively. Women covered head to toe are viewed as oppressed, the rules are misunderstood and the faith is linked with terrorism. I was never against Islam, but everything I heard about it was mostly in a negative light. I neither understood it or tried to understand it. It was just one of those things you hear about and think how glad you are not to be Muslim. As I read Sister Souljah's books "A Deeper Love Inside", "Midnight: A Gangster Love Story" and "Midnight and The Meaning of Love" I found myself eyes wide open remembering the streets of New York and the fair representation of the African American people she throws under the bus. I'm not fully aware of Sudanese culture but I will say that reading both books on Midnight, it made me admire Islam and its culture. I thought how it must suck to be covered like that before. Now, I actually think how erotic it might be to be covered by the hijab and the niqab, and to live in a society where women are cared for with respect, and delicacy, being seen as sacred and the womb being so sacred as the giver of life. They live happily and the longevity of the family is unquestionable due to the rules they follow. The innocence being maintained by the modesty they portray is all the more alluring. The reviews were on both extremes of love and hate on these books.

If you've ever done this, you'd catch my drift about why it actually might be hotter =x...

Parenting: Another statement I viewed entirely differently after reading the books was:

"A boy becomes a man at the age of 14. He can take on a wife as it's natural to be interested in sex at the point of sexual maturity... In the U.S. you're not considered an adult until age 18, and even then marriage is discouraged until you're well into your mid to late 20's". Sometimes we're so caught up with what's logical in life but we forget about morals and values. In the U.S. we teach our children to abstain when the hunger for sex is so strong at that age. When they don't abstain we put them on birth control or teach them safe sex practices. By the time a youth is 25 years old, they have had a string of sexual partners and/or abortions/children before marriage, and that's all considered OK, its normal. I'm pro-choice, but maybe the character in the book is on to something here...Would I rather my daughters marry young, or have a slew of sexual relationships, abortions, and greater possibility of heartbreaks? We don't live in a country where women are cherished. If you've studied gender roles in modern society, deviant behavior, and the correlation between crime and single parent households in America, you'd probably agree with me when I answer yes; I'd rather them marry young if the intention is based on doing what's morally right and living a good life. Education and financial security shouldn't be the basis for marriage, truly. I know my great great grandparents married young and stayed together faithfully and happily. Today those days are long gone.

These books were definitely great reads. I recommend them all. If you've read "The Coldest Winter Ever", these are almost a continuation of the story if not a direct expansion of the characters. I enjoyed them thoroughly. Whether it's an accurate depiction of Sudanese life I'm not too sure, I hope to find out one day when we start traveling. If you happen to read them, please fill me in on your thoughts in the comment box below.

"Mystery creates wonder and wonder is the basis of man's desire to understand."-Neil Armstrong