Tuesday, January 27, 2015

What to Do When You Don't Know Who You Are

The way society is set up, we're born, our mothers formula-fed us mostly because that option was available and convenient (no pun intended if you really tried to breastfeed, or whatever the hell your story is, really nobody cares...), you grow up, you go to school, you basically conform to the rules and school structure. You want something in the world, you learn that it all costs money. Your sole ambition becomes to grow up and be rich enough to buy all the things you want. You go to school with the impression that once you graduate and go to college that's when the fun really begins. Naturally you assumed that's where all the freedom lies, because you'll be out of your parents' house and be in love with who and what you're doing. You graduate college and you're ready to conquer the world, ready to get THE job. Sometimes you go through a string of jobs, and you're still not feeling fulfilled. That's the new norm. You settle for a job because of the benefits and you feel like you have time because you're like 23 and the next thing you know you're anywhere from 28-40 years old. Somehow everything became a matter of convenience, no longer purpose...

We've really lost the ability to dream, to use our imaginations, to think outside of the box because of the pressures of our current economic climate. If you've settled down, got married, or had a kid or two, your will is to survive. To pay your bills, put food on the table, and get through the daily pressures. It's not easy, and even though you'd like to just stop and do something differently you can't because that will to just survive overpowers any desire to take a leap of faith and think BIG or think outside of the box we've been confined to. That box we're confined to is called fear.

When I was a teenager I wasn't afraid of anything or anyone. I got a thrill out of doing risky things. As an adult, my actions were no longer as risky. I weigh all my decisions with caution. The riskiest thing I did up until last week was not get on the scale for 3 days. I''ve been on Pinterest looking at different things I wanna do around my home but I've always been so scared of painting and heights because I'm scared I'll screw up or that I won't be able to stand on the 3rd level of the ladder. Well last Friday, I grew. To you it's just painting, but to me it was believing in myself and taking a leap, a step outside of my convenient comfort zone. I took the risk and did it myself. Not only did I do a good job, but I gained an experience I wouldn't have if I waited for a man. I'll save us tons of money from our painter's fees, (although I will still use him for bigger projects; ie "don't bite off more than you can chew").


You've been working over 40 hours a week, why the hell would you need to work harder? Find ways to re-invent the wheel. If you put your passion into your work, time flies when you're having fun. Sometimes you're driving somewhere and you see these people on the sidewalk holding up an arrow sign advertising a business inside a shopping plaza. There are those that are holding up the sign, or wearing the sign and they're just on their phone looking miserable as hell. Then there are the ones who have earphones on and are dancing, spinning the sign, just jamming out. They always make me smile, because what a great spirit they must have. We all know those sign holding jobs don't pay well and mostly target those in society who probably have something in their background check holding them back from progressing in life, but if I were building a team of people for my business, I'd want that enthusiastic person.


Sometimes there becomes no distinction...

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Be grateful for having this moment of confusion where you question who you are. Value yourself so much that you know what you can and cannot accept in life. Appreciate your experiences. Accept what you can't change, and change what you can't accept, but appreciate every step of the process, because in those steps you're learning who you are, and what you want. Those moments are like rough drafts of the final product that is you.


Seek out experiences. We gain experience through listening to stories, reading books, watching TV (to a degree), learning about things, enjoying nature, and the simple things. Do things you've never done before.

I'm all for feminism, and empowerment. I hope to inspire personal development, and motivate women to take better care of themselves. Not just your body but your mind, your soul, your spirit.

When the inside is taken cared of, everything on the outside falls into place.


EXPLORE! Explore your depth on different levels. Read books you never would've before, take a class, attend seminars/webinars, try a new hobby, again; do something you've never done. Take advantage of the age of information, Google anything and everything you don't know. Free resources are everywhere if you look for them.

As much as people want to hate Beyonce, she's a brand ambassador for feminism, beauty,  personal development, empowerment, and ultimately success.

Which individual here are you?
ANSWER: Who are you? What do you want in life? What brings you happiness? What are your passions? What makes you excited? What are you doing when you feel your personal best? What's your relationship with God or spirituality like? What are the quality of your relationships? What do you spend the most time talking about? Are you in the least bit concerned about what others are saying and doing or are you so focused on yourself that you don't give a crap about anything else? Do you entertain drama? Do you invite drama? Do you associate with negativity? Do you post things on social media for likes? Who are your mentors? What dreams and aspirations do you have? What kind of life do you want to live? How long do you stay happy after buying something? Does money=happiness in your book? What are your strengths? What are you're weaknesses? And finally... How much control do you have over your Ego?