Tuesday, January 19, 2016

How to be a Good Friend on Facebook

As a social media junkie, I had to make this post. Now everyone is entitled to post whatever they want, that's the bottom-line. I personally love sharing things I subscribe to a lot. My personal favorites are memes, articles, videos, information, inspiration, and deep philosophical shit that makes you think. I mean I constantly have people liking, sharing and/or commentary and that's what Facebook is about for me. The connecting I get to do with others on a daily basis. Being extroverted I'm not interested in stalking anybody. I want to have a positive impact on my friends and make someone's day by sharing a message that they might be needing to get through the day, or sharing a hilarious video/meme because those are the things that lift my spirits when I'm down. Those are the things that work as tools for growth, inspiration, stress relief, learning new things, growing and staying connected with family and friends.

I don't feel that it's a substitute for living a meaningful life or being in the present as we see people who are constantly taking selfies and posting everything that they do, and saying every waking thought literally missing the point of life in the present moment. If that's you well good for you buddy, I'm not sure how fun and fabulous your life is that you stop and document midway; just saying...

I love scrolling through the news-feed, I've liked so many pages it's always lot of funny stuff, informative, uplifting, and positive material. Being positive isn't that you're not allowed to have feelings, but it's how you struggle through a lot of the negative feelings and still live a genuinely happy and smiling life. Facebook can be a great resource for keeping you in that positive state of mind. Likewise, if I go scrolling and everything you keep sharing is negative I have unfollowed you. Some stories are worth posting because it's too crazy not to, it brings awareness, or there's shock value you can't help but share.  Other news stories are just downright depressing, and sometimes even too disturbing to be shared. Videos are turning up so graphic and disturbing it literally ruins my day, I don't even bother saying anything. If we want to be shocked beyond belief we would go to rotten.com but scrolling through the feed can be a nightmare waiting to happen sometimes. Side Note: I think if we humiliated people who commit heinous crimes, we could potentially stop people with criminal intent who are looking to just become viral. Media coverage alone tends to glamorize crimes.

So, like I said before post whatever you want,  It's 2016. Nobody cares. But if you do care to know here's what everybody should know by now on;

How to Be a Good Friend on Facebook:
  1. Spread awareness type of news articles. We don't need to know that there was a car accident yesterday and two people are dead.  If there's a serial killer on the loose, let us know.
  2. Mind your own business. The whole family doesn't need to know that so and so has a filthy mouth and dresses like a stripper on the weekends. Unless you're paying her bills, mind your own, nobody likes a town gossip. On the other hand don't post every single damn thing going on in your life and get upset at people for being in your business, they're not "on your dick", you're being ignorant. Example: Tom posts updates that he's going to the hospital, but get's upset when people want to know why,  when they tell other's that he's in the hospital, and/or won't stop trying to contact him. You make people lose empathy for you when you say you're going for a surgery to wish you luck, but ignore their natural curiosity when they ask why...um do I hear "attention whore"?. Don't say anything at all.  You're better off this way if you don't wanna get into the details, or worse have a blabbermouth tell all on the feed. 
  3. Like attracts Like. If you complain about life on Facebook a lot... I mean a whole lot...Chances are you are attracting more negative energy and nobody likes a "Debbie Downer" so positive people will stop offering support or a kind word of advice and the "Negative Nancy's" will fuel you downhill. 
  4. Don't assume your friends have seen your posts or that you're unpopular! Nobody believes me when I say no sorry I missed the pics of your latest trip. The higher # pages you've liked and the # of friends you have clogs the feed sometimes which is all based on algorithms. Your Average Facebook Post Only Reaches 7-12% Of Your Friends
  5. Don't assume posts are about you, but if the shoe fits wear it. In this generation nobody takes accountability for anything. 
  6. Don't try to figure out whats going on in someone's life based on a post. That's dumb, sometimes it's just lyrics seriously, lol. 
  7. DO practice tolerance. I know spelling and grammar irks everyone, but for God's sake it's FB! Not English Comp 101. I spelled a word incorrectly once (probably more), everybody got the message, but someone had the nerve to call me out. Seriously? Does that make you a better person and a more intelligent person because you speak well, write well, and make it your priority to correct spelling? I get that school is looking more and more like a joke with people today saying Bae, instead of Babe and basic things taught in school not being true, but be kind, such an obvious power trip isn't very becoming. It's okay if the misspellings and bad grammar is part of pop culture but not okay if used by the average person??? Maybe you need to take that energy and fix pop culture...[jus sayin again].
  8. DO respect your friends privacy settings/wishes. If your friend would rather you not tag them, then do that. Use discretion in the photos you post, make sure everybody looks good. 
  9. DO keep your arguments off Facebook. Nobody ever benefited from airing out their dirty laundry in public.
  10. DO promptly RSVP on events you're invited to, it's rude when you don't do it for mailed invitations, and it's rude as fuck not doing it via Facebook Events, when it's just 1 easy click of a button. Stop being an asshole. 
  11. Don't be nosy when people go from "in a relationship" to "its complicated"...
  12. Don't like/comment on embarrassing old photos, that shit is in the past for a reason! Doing so will cause it to show up on the feed!
  13. Don't post things to your friends' wall that could get them in trouble, professionally or otherwise! 
  14. If you do have dumb friends who might post stuff to your wall mindlessly, that might get you in trouble, get familiar with your privacy settings
  15. Don't add people you don't really know, or people from your friends' list (uh creepy!), or people you're not prepared to see be themselves with their posts.
  16. DO like/comment when your close family and friends post/message/tag you. Again rude as fuck to never acknowledge things. Life is busy as hell. This is how we keep the connections alive on our own time which is why I love FB. 
  17. DO like/comment/share this post! =)